The week I wrote this post, I was half way through pregnancy and so many of you responded and it’s one I think it really key so I wanted to have it live here for you to come back to as you need.
Half way though this week and I think I probably weigh what I did full term first time. Which is not said with an eye roll or any negative feelings. I also don’t actually know because I haven’t weighed myself since…. well since I gave birth the first time: 5 years ago.
In the US my weight was so closely monitored, I was weighed at any chance, and told to watch it and “be careful” when I gained a few pounds in one week. (Honestly I change by a few pounds in a day with how much I drink or go to the bathroom! 🤷🏻♀️🚽)
I know there’s (sometimes) a medical side to weight gain but I believe there’s always a medical side to CARING for our bodies, and I think when the constant question in the mirror and on the scales and the biggest ringing in our ears from society and doctors and friends and comments and our anticipation of what is the biggest judgement will be is:
“have I gained weight?”
… we’re often focusing on the wrong question for actual health! Especially in a season where we need to be gaining weight!
I choose instead:
“Am I nourishing my body the best I can right now in all the ways I’m capable of?”
which is so important every day for my changing body and my growing babe. I could gain no weight and nourish my body poorly. I could gain more weight and nourish my body super well. I don’t think they’re hugely connected but my (non medical) opinion is we focus a bit much on the wrong one and it can massively impact the more important one.
In all seasons of life I want the ringing in my ears and my question of myself (if any) to be “am I truly caring for my body in thought and action to the best of my current ability.” Society makes that metric hard for so many people on any given day, but in pregnancy and post partum it can be an even harder mantra to shift. But it can shift and we can be part of that, and it will change how we love our own bodies and also how we love others in our thoughts and comments and conversation. And that could be life changing. ❤️
What’s your take? It’s a big one with more nuance and more to say always but that’s chat 1. 😉
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